Anger Workshop
Workshop 1 - June 18th, 2000
Yes, precisely! (Laughter) That makes a lot, quite an army.
When it is in the head it is troublesome, because it is still more difficult to discover them, and one is so full of wrong ideas that it is very difficult to put any order in there.
Where it is easiest to find and cure is here (Mother shows the centre of the chest), but it is there that it hurts most; however it is the place where one finds it most easily and cures it most radically.
Lower down in the vital it is more obscure and entangled — it is quite muddled. It is all mixed up and there are many of these things — when they are there, there are many. You must put some order there first before finding them. There are some which are entangled like this (gesture).
For example, many people have the tendency to fly into a rage — suddenly it takes possession of them. Pouff! they get terribly angry. It is here that one must look for the cause; and here it is all entangled, like this, all mixed up, and one must go very deep and very fast, because this spreads with the swiftness of a flood; and when it has spread, it is quite a mass of like a black smoke which rises and burdens the consciousness, and it is very, very difficult to put any order in there. But when one feels that the fury is going to rise up, if one hurries there immediately like that in the vital centre, and goes there with a torch which lights up well, one can find the corner.
If one finds the corner, hop! one does this, gets hold of it, and it is finished, the anger falls instantaneously, even before one has had the time to say a word. I give this example, there are hundreds of others.
All affairs of feelings, vanity, ambition, passion — passion… yes, but still not only material passion… I mean (I don’t like to use the word because it is a travesty, but still) what men call love— all that, it is there one finds it, all attachments, all sentimentality, all this, it is in there.
- The Mother
CWM, Vol.7, p89-90.
Most of the difficulties that people have are due to a lack of control over their actions, and their reactions to the actions of others. According to one’s own nature and weaknesses, one must set for oneself a discipline that is invariably to be followed; for example, never to quarrel, never to reply when someone says or does something unpleasant, never to argue when one disagrees.
Obviously one should never lose one’s temper when things or people are not the way one would like them to be. Naturally, if a person is not used to controlling himself, it takes a good deal of effort to acquire the habit. But this is quite indispensable if one wants to make any progress. The path is long. That is why one must have patience and an unfailing sincerity towards oneself.
In order to be able to live in peace with others, self-control is essential, and it ought to be practiced even by those who do not aspire for transformation.
- The Mother
Blessings, 12 December 1971 CWM, Vol.17, p376.
My dear child, I know that it is impossible to change one’s nature overnight, but what you can understand and accept immediately is that losing your temper and getting upset is a sign of great weakness. And, as I told you, my force is with you from the moment you decide to overcome this weakness which is unworthy of you. So I ask you, from now on, to use this force I am giving you to control your reactions and to remain quiet until your anger has passed. This is the first indispensable step. Afterwards, I shall gradually help you to understand that your anger is unjustified and has no basis. With all my love, I ask you to please make the effort necessary for this great progress to be achieved; it will open the door to transformation.
My love and blessings are with you.
- The Mother
August 1969 CWM, Vol.17, p364.
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